Evolve or Dissolve

Attitude is the most important factor in creating a positive perspective. The first aspect of keeping your outlook positive is realizing that the world that we live in is not such a negative one.

It is critical to first acknowledge that there are positive attributes in the world.  Life is merely a mixed package that offers both positive and negative. Therefore, we have to psychologically position ourselves to see and receive the positive energy in our social and physical environment.

Being positive refers to a range of feelings. You can be hopeful or just upbeat. Perhaps you are just optimistic about life’s opportunities and your future.

Here are 4 ways to keep a positive mindset

1. Surround yourself with positive people

There will always be people in the world who seem more negative than positive. You do not have to surround yourself with such people, unless they happen to be family (which you wouldn’t have to tolerate as an adult even).

You must also acknowledge that a person doesn’t have to be negative entirely to have a negative effect on you. We have different chemistries with others. WE just have to choose carefully about who we associate with. They help determine how positive we feel and how quickly we rebound from inevitable negative experiences.

2. Humor

Researchers have found that when we smile, the physiological change releases endorphins that make us feel better. The fact that we are less likely to laugh when we feel negative or that we wouldn’t remember the good times in that mood, shows that we attempt to maintain the state that we’re in. A negative mood is easily broken with humor or laughter. We just have to laugh a little more by creating the circumstances for us to do so sometimes.

3. Create Positivity

Sometimes we need to create the positivity that we want to see. You cannot simply expect to receive all that is positive about the world. It’s like trying to find a good partner without being a good one yourself. You have to actively seek and create the positivity around you.

Ever notice that if you smile, those around you are likelier to smile? It may not happen all the time, but think about the chances if your expression bears the sourness of a lemon. You can also create positivity by being good and doing good deeds as well. Since you see the positive results of your being positive, you will very likely remain positive.

Love and belong

When we feel “love”, we stimulate a certain part of our brain that makes us feel good. When we feel good, we tend to remember positive things and create positivity as well. Telling people you love them or hearing it from another creates the ultimate positive situation.

Being discouraged can ruin someone’s day, week, or even longer.

Mentally being able to push through hard times is something that can really help someone in the right direction.

Everyone has a bad day once in a while, and it is usually work related. These days make you feel as though you should have stayed in bed.

You are fraught, stressed and anxious and it seems as though the day just keeps getting worse. The day seems endless. There are ways to get through a bad day without losing your mind or your temper.

The first thing to do is to examine why you are tense, perhaps you are upset because of a situation at home or with a colleague? Perhaps you got out of bed in an odd mood? Do what you can to resolve it.

Laughing at a bad day makes it less scary. It relaxes you and your colleagues and takes the stress out of the situation. Laughing also releases feel good endorphins in the human body that automatically calm you. The succession of events that make up a bad day, when you stop to look at them together, are often very funny.  Finding the humour in any situation is the best way to deal with it.

Another way to deal with a bad day at work is to change the way that you look at it. Do not get depressed because of one bad day. Stay positive and cheerful and stick a smile on your face. Recent research shows that when we smile, we feel happier about things and this reinforces a happier and less stressed attitude toward life.

Walk away from the task that is currently annoying you; take some deep breaths and a two minute or so stretch.You will go back to your work refreshed and, perhaps, with a different view that will assist you in getting it done.

Does that particular task have to be done right now? Is there some other work that you could do for a few minutes? It might be that by doing something else first you can complete the original task successfully. Sometimes a little break from a task can make you see a better way of doing it.

You may long for the day to end, but if you watch the clock, it will be interminable. Keep yourself busy, cheerful and focused and the hours will, apparently, fly by. Then you can go home put your feet up and relax and forget the bad day.

Everyone has a bad day at work every so often. One bad day means nothing in the great scheme of things. Keep your head up and keep positive.

Learning how to keep your mind in a positive state can change your whole outlook on life.

I currently work in sales, so I deal with rejection every day. I realize that a lot of young adults, especially in this economy are getting hired for sales positions. Sales are tough. In fact, they can be brutal. So I want to share my thoughts on rejecting rejection.

Whether you are in door to door sales, phone sales, B2B, outside or inside; you are going to hear “NO” a lot. Even if you are approaching the opposite sex. That ‘no’ can either be discouraging, or it can be motivating. Turn it into the latter, and success can be found.

Some people hear ‘no’ enough times, and they give up. You are going to hear it thousands of times anyway, so brush it off. So what if you get another ‘no’? It is the only path to the ‘yes’.

Rejection creates character. It thickens your skin. When ‘no’ doesn’t bother you anymore, the path to the ‘yes’ becomes less painful.

Embrace the ‘no’. Take the ‘no’ with a smile on your face. Thank the ‘no’ for its time and move on.

Its all  a numbers game. You can make 20 phone calls and get 1 sale. Or you can make 100 phone calls and make 5 sales. Its the people that can bear the rejection that can make those 100 calls. The weaker ones give up. The rejection gets to them.

Put your guard up. Don’t let it get to you.

If you are out in the bar, and you approach 3 girls, and they all say no, that doesn’t mean you’re not good enough. It means you should go approach 10 more girls, and I promise you, one will work out.

You have to have a care-free attitude. The more you care, the more you get bothered, then the more it interferes with you mentally.

DON’T FEAR REJECTION. REJECTION IS WHAT MAKES YOU STRONGER.

After watching an awesome YouTube video featuring the wisdom of Will Smith, I took away three great keys to success that I wanted to shed light on and share with all of you. I will also post the video for those who haven’t seen it.

1. Greatness exists in all of us.

Somewhere deep down inside all of us lies greatness.

For some people, it naturally oozes out of them. For others, it takes years of practice or hard work at a particular skill to find that greatness. Regardless, it is there. And the only way we can ever achieve greatness is to simply believe in that. Greatness CAN be acquired.

Whether you are an athlete, a teacher, a salesman, or a musician; there are skills and crafts that need to be refined in order to reach greatness. An athlete will work out, and train in there craft. A salesman will practice their pitch, refine their closing skills. A teacher needs to reteach material to themselves in order to stay great.

Its there. I promise. Go find it. In whatever area you work in, or have a passion for, or want to excel in, just PUT THE TIME IN! Work at it. That is the only way you can achieve greatness. Make it a point to be better than everyone else. And who knows, someday you just might be. This holds true in any walk of life.

2. There’s no shortcut to success.

This goes hand in hand with number 1. We love to look for shortcuts. We love to procrastinate. We love to be lazy. We love to wait for things to happen. STOP WAITING. Become a go-getter.

If you are always looking for a shortcut, you are only going to go backwards. You will be dissolving.

The one’s who achieve greatness never look for shortcuts.

Achievement feels so much better when it is hard-fought doesn’t it?

3. Lay one brick at a time.

If you are eager to build an entire wall as fast as you can, it will eventually just collapse. The foundation will not be strong.

Take it one step at a time. You’re most likely not going to make a million dollars in a couple years, unless of course you hit the lottery.

Try to make $1,000, then go for $10,000, then $50,000…and so on.

If you are lifting weights and you can only lift 200 lbs, don’t try to lift 250 lbs until you can lift 210 lbs.

Take your life one step at a time. Practice makes perfect. Become skilled at your craft.

Build your wall one brick at a time, and you will have built a great wall.